"My Person"

A term with many meanings. One I first heard on a T.V. show, Grey’s Anatomy, and one that is now a part of my regular vocabulary with a whole new ring to it.

On the show it is phrased as a bond between two people who are closer than just friends. A special connection you have with an individual whose soul somehow matches yours.

Something many yearn for & something that I believe all will have at some point in their life.

Have you ever met someone who just sparkles?

They walk into a room radiating sunshine & everyone wants to be near their warmth.

Let me paint a picture for you. It’s sorority recruitment 2018, I’m a freshman in college ready to make a boatload of new friends and attend a boatload of frat parties. I figured I wouldn’t struggle at making friends considering I had no issue speaking to anyone & everyone about anything & having the energy level of a 3 year old on a sugar rush at all times. I finally joined the chapter of Delta Gamma & everyone welcomed me with open arms. I couldn’t wait to get closer to my new sisters.

Everyone I would meet was so incredibly kind and I quickly formed a really solid friend group full of still some of the most incredible people I’ve ever met. Yet everyone kept comparing me to one of the older girls in the chapter who had “the same energy as me” and told me over & over again how similar we were.

Me being a freshman of course I was intimidated to approach an older girl but I didn’t let the comments slide. They stuck with me and I fully started to “manifest” this friendship that I figured would just be some potentially dangerous fun.

Boy was I right. Dangerously fun wasn’t even the half of it.

That energetic person was Rachael. My person.

Sometimes two people meet and they instantly just click.

When looking back at the moments we have shared throughout our friendship, I can’t exactly pin point when I knew she was my person, but everything, all the little & big things added up to it and suddenly we were spending every waking moment together, sharing, laughing, traveling, planning our future weddings & the trips we’d be taking together at 80 to bora bora.

It’s funny how one person or thing can come into your life and make it completely different. A beautiful kind of different.

A decision, a person, good or bad, things come out of it that you’d never expect and change your life forever.

Thankfully the big man upstairs blessed me with something that has no return policy.

I recently was watching a show, Firefly Lane, and it had me reflecting a lot on the power of a genuine friendship.

Who you turn to for absolutely everything, no matter how big or how small. The arms that hold you together and the voice that reminds you how much they care. The one who makes you feel at peace just being in their presence. They are there for you always, your biggest advocate no matter the situation or circumstances.

Soul mates rather but not in a romantic way, in a way where two individuals have a divine connection that no one can deny. They teach you, with the passing of time, that while others may come in and out of your life, they never will. They’re here to stay. (and she better be because she knows all of my deepest secrets hehe)

Having someone in your life like this, makes every life decision, event, celebration, bigger and better. You look forward to the little things a little more because you know there’s a pretty good chance they’ll tag along and make it better than you could ever imagine.

Not only do they make life more fun, they also influence you in a positive way. They inspire you & push you to be your best. They’re sometimes everything you want to be. And even if a mess comes out of it, they’ll most definitely be there to help you clean it up (or join in).

They’re real with you. There’s no holding back. They’ll say it like it is without a second thought because they love you and couldn’t live with themselves not putting their two sense in. They’re the person who will always have your back, even if what you’re doing is completely insane. They won’t let you fail, or at least alone. You know what each other are feeling solely based on how you walk in the door. When either of you are upset you don’t even have to say a word to know exactly what’s going on & exactly what to do to make it a little better.

Six text in a row would never phase them. And a day without a random phone call (or many) to go through every detail, up to when you went to the bathroom, would just be wrong.

They’re your number one fan on your instagram post even though they went through the 80 options with you five minutes before you posted it & probably edited it for you.

Far from perfect, but some type of perfect to you.

My person has a way of leaving an impact on others that is everlasting. Something I admire greatly in her & strive to do as well. Because people may not remember what you said, but they’ll always remember how you made them feel.

They are simply the type of person that “thank you” could never be enough or ever convey how you really feel. Yet everything is completely reciprocated.

They bring out sides of you that you didn’t even know you had & make you better everyday.

When we are lucky enough to come across a person or people who are capable of showing such love, we have to hold them close.

“Cling to what is good.”

So even though thank you doesn’t cut it,

Thank you to my person and God for placing her in my life. Thank you for picking me up when I’ve fallen so ungracefully, making me never feel alone, always showing up, celebrating my wins, & most importantly for upping my standards when it comes to love. After all, if you choose your circle wisely, they should teach you all you need to know about unconditional love.

“It’s who you love that matters, and who loves you.”