Getting to Where We Belong

Have you ever thought about where you’ll be 5 years from now? Maybe you’ll have a new boyfriend/girlfriend or job. Maybe you’ll live in a new city.

What about 10 years from now? Maybe your plan is to be married or have kids.

But have you ever thought about what it took to be exactly where you are now? All the moves you made, whether they felt right or wrong, they got you to where you are.

Speaking of which, do you remember when the last time someone asked you if you were okay? Not in a stereotypical way, and not in an expected “good how bout you?” response. But in a really curious genuine “are you okay?” way.

Do you remember the last time someone stopped by just to say hi? Gave you a call because they were thinking of you?

Sometimes we get so consumed in our lives that we think everyone around us is doing fine. Probably because they smile or make others smile. Maybe they ask if others are okay and make them feel good. Or maybe simply because when someone does ask they say they’re great.

But if any of us actually cared about how someone was really doing, we’d just notice.

If we were really ok our dark circles would go away. We’d definitely have more of an appetite. We wouldn’t go down a size after size.

If they wanted to make sure you were okay it wouldn’t make all of the pain go away but maybe it would give you a boost in the direction you’re trying to go.

Maybe they don’t know this, but you’re not a push-over. Your door stopped revolving and being open for just anyone to come in, make themselves at home and then leave again. Friendships aren’t about convenience. That’s probably inconvenient for most but have you ever noticed that when the going get’s tough most get going and those who want to make sure you’re okay, stay?

We all have goals. We all have a vision of who we want to be and the steps along the way we’ll take. It never seems to workout the way we plan but it always seems to workout exactly the way it should. Pay attention to who is always willing to hold your hand.

I have been okay, I’ve been good, I’ve been great. But what I am now is happy because I’ve finally accepted that where I am is where I need to be and who is along for the journey with me, we’ll see.

I know it’s not always easy to imagine in the moment, or possible at all. Life is what we make of it. One foot in front of the other unsure of where we are going but sure it’ll be a great ride.

So how did you get to where you are right now? Where are you reading this from? If you look back and reflect on 5 years ago are you where you thought you'd be? Maybe you don't know, maybe it's all just go with the flow. Although your life might not look like what you want it to, you're doing it right. You're taking the steps and it'll lead you to exactly where you are meant to be. If you're a size 8 you can't wear a size 2, so stop trying to fit in. You don't need to be smaller, you need to be right where you are. Where you belong.